You Can't Please Everyone, and That's Ok!
Photo by Nate Heckenberger Photography
This topic can sometimes be a bit of a hard pill to swallow and might be an uncomfortable discussion for some. But, this topic is becoming more and more relevant these days as couples have been having to make hard decisions on what is best for them and their wedding days. It’s something that isn’t often talked about in the wedding planning process but, it’s something that I feel as a Wedding Planner, needs to be talked about. Couples often have immense pressure put on them by family members, friends and even themselves to create the perfect wedding day. Often times the expectations are set so high that no one could possibly achieve them all. These kinds of expectations can create a lot of stress, overwhelm, exhaustion and frustration for a lot of couples and causes serious FOMO and wedding comparison syndrome. So, I wanted to take the time to address this with you engaged couples out there. So let’s talk about how it’s ok not to please everyone when planning your wedding.
The truth is that it’s impossible to make everyone happy. Someone will always have a “better idea” and someone will undoubtedly tell you that they think you should have done something different. But the good news is, their opinions don’t matter. That’s right, I said it. Because it doesn’t. Although you may value your friends and family members opinions, (and most of the time they mean well) at the end of the day, your opinions as the couple are the only ones that matter.
Your wedding day is about the two of you. It’s about celebrating the love that you have for each other and sharing that love with your friends and family. Your wedding day should be a reflection of that love and the two of you. It isn’t about your Maid of Honor, your Mom or Dad, your Aunt, your Grandma, your recently married cousin, or your Future In-Laws. Although these people all play very important roles in your wedding and your life, they are meant to be there as support and someone to lean on during the planning process.
Now I’m not saying that some people in your life aren’t providing you with some sound and helpful advice and that you should just ignore everything that everyone tells you. Sometimes having someone to help provide honest feedback and bounce ideas off of can be extremely helpful. But, the bottom line is that it isn’t about anyone else, it’s about the two of you.
What I want you to know is that it is ok not to take every opinion to heart and to follow your own heart when it comes to creating your perfect wedding day. Weddings tend to carry a lot of weight with traditions, culture and ideals. But, if those things don’t speak to you as a couple, don’t be afraid to through them out the window. This is your journey. This is your love story. This is your wedding day and it’s ok if you can’t make everyone happy. Your loved ones will be happy for you no matter what. When you walk away at the end of the night, happy and in love and you look in the eyes of the love of your life, that will be the only thing that truly matters.
Happy Planning!
Love,
Naticia
